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Post by snowmanomura on Dec 2, 2017 12:37:00 GMT -5
Hypothetical here.
If you had close friends that were a couple, and knew one had a brief affair (with another married person) and had no intention of telling, even after strong suggestion from friends, would you tell the other? If the cheater decided to take a new job across the country, forcing their spouse to quit their somewhat specialized job(where they have seniority) to move somewhere with few similar opportunities and much lower pay, would that matter?
Does telling just satisfy some internal justice principle? Is it even your business (assume the cheater told you about the affair)? Does not telling make you complicit in the betrayal?
If you had close friends that were a couple, and knew one had a brief affair (with another married person) and had no intention of telling, even after strong suggestion from friends, would you tell the other? If the cheater decided to take a new job across the country, forcing their spouse to quit their somewhat specialized job(where they have seniority) to move somewhere with few similar opportunities and much lower pay, would that matter?
Does telling just satisfy some internal justice principle? Is it even your business (assume the cheater told you about the affair)? Does not telling make you complicit in the betrayal?
Ouch, that's tough. I'd probably stay out of it. Kids?
If you had close friends that were a couple, and knew one had a brief affair (with another married person) and had no intention of telling, even after strong suggestion from friends, would you tell the other? If the cheater decided to take a new job across the country, forcing their spouse to quit their somewhat specialized job(where they have seniority) to move somewhere with few similar opportunities and much lower pay, would that matter?
Does telling just satisfy some internal justice principle? Is it even your business (assume the cheater told you about the affair)? Does not telling make you complicit in the betrayal?
Ouch, that's tough. I'd probably stay out of it. Kids?
No kids. No intention of kids in the future.
Ive known about it for about a year, and made it clear to the cheater I wasn't cool with it, and didn't want to be in a position where I'm forced to lie or to keep the secret, and have done my best to avoid hanging out with them outside of large group gatherings. But now that they're moving across the country, I can't help but think it's not right for a friend to make some major life decisions on a false premise.
Yeah it’s best to stay out of it though if the betrayed is a closer friend you can always go to the other party, tell them you know what’s up, you think it’s shitty and due to the circumstances have a good mind to tell unless they do it first. It’s going to cost you the cheater as a friend but if it saves the other person heartache who really gives a fuck?
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how does a person survive while running a (very small) business during holiday order season while also working full time and preparing to adopt a dog and suddenly planning a last minute wedding? asking for a friend who thinks the answer might be "coffee and eating all of my feelings."
Ouch, that's tough. I'd probably stay out of it. Kids?
No kids. No intention of kids in the future.
Ive known about it for about a year, and made it clear to the cheater I wasn't cool with it, and didn't want to be in a position where I'm forced to lie or to keep the secret, and have done my best to avoid hanging out with them outside of large group gatherings. But now that they're moving across the country, I can't help but think it's not right for a friend to make some major life decisions on a false premise.
Personally, I wouldn't be able to live it. In college my roommate was the person another friend had an affair with, and I used a site that sends anonymous text messages to tell the cheater that someone knew, and she needs to not do that anymore. I'd probably go a similar route here; anonymously tell the person being cheated on what happened, or that they need to talk about their partner about what their partner has been doing with [name drop]. Your situation is tougher because that a huge bomb to drop on someone via text, but I'd probably go that route or something similar if I felt I wasn't able to tell them in person. Also keep in mind what might happen if Partner B finds out on their own and that you knew about Partner A's infidelity and you didn't tell them. Or just ask yourself what you would want them to do if you were the unknowing partner in this situation. Either way I'm sorry you're put in this position; it's super shitty.
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how does a person survive while running a (very small) business during holiday order season while also working full time and preparing to adopt a dog and suddenly planning a last minute wedding? asking for a friend who thinks the answer might be "coffee and eating all of my feelings."
5.5/four tet, daphni b2b floating points, avalon emerson 5.12/neil young 5.19/mannequin pussy 5.21/serpentwithfeet 5.25/hozier 6.12-16/bonnaroo 6.28/goose 6.29/goose 9.17/the national + the war on drugs 9.23/sigur ros 9.27-29/making time 10.17/air
Because that is you. And Dave Maynar AND garageland AND me. We just don't have the beards (the girls don't have the beards).
Hey, people listen to bands I talk about. Given, people means garageland and Fred , but that's aside the point.
I listen to some of the music you listen to and my two best friends listen to the same music as me...but we all listen to some obscure, weird ass shit compared to "normal" people.
I cannot see that image because it is probably on imgur and imgur's blocked in Turkey, probably because of a stupid reason I don't know why.
I wonder what it is.
The image is a starter pack meme with "the guy who only talks about bands no one listened to."
It includes an Andrew Jackson Jihad shirt, a flannel, ripped jeans, keys on a carabiner which is a thing I guess?, thick rimmed turtle shell glasses, low cut Chuck Taylors, logos for Last.fm, Pitchfork, and The Needle Drop, as well as a full beard and a nice hair cut.
It's mostly accurate but I hope we can all agree that Anthony Fantano is terrible.
I cannot see that image because it is probably on imgur and imgur's blocked in Turkey, probably because of a stupid reason I don't know why.
I wonder what it is.
The image is a starter pack meme with "the guy who only talks about bands no one listened to."
It includes an Andrew Jackson Jihad shirt, a flannel, ripped jeans, keys on a carabiner which is a thing I guess?, thick rimmed turtle shell glasses, low cut Chuck Taylors, logos for Last.fm, Pitchfork, and The Needle Drop, as well as a full beard and a nice hair cut.
It's mostly accurate but I hope we can all agree that Anthony Fantano is terrible.
Also, my starter pack includes ONLY the following: flannel, turtle shell glasses, logos of Last.fm and Pitchfork, low cut Chuck Taylors and the nice hair cut.
The image is a starter pack meme with "the guy who only talks about bands no one listened to."
It includes an Andrew Jackson Jihad shirt, a flannel, ripped jeans, keys on a carabiner which is a thing I guess?, thick rimmed turtle shell glasses, low cut Chuck Taylors, logos for Last.fm, Pitchfork, and The Needle Drop, as well as a full beard and a nice hair cut.
It's mostly accurate but I hope we can all agree that Anthony Fantano is terrible.
Also, my starter pack includes ONLY the following: flannel, turtle shell glasses, logos of Last.fm and Pitchfork, low cut Chuck Taylors and the nice hair cut.
As a guy who cannot grow a beard I feel personally attacked.
Also, my starter pack includes ONLY the following: flannel, turtle shell glasses, logos of Last.fm and Pitchfork, low cut Chuck Taylors and the nice hair cut.
As a guy who cannot grow a beard I feel personally attacked.
I mean, I could've added the beard as well, but I don't currently have a full beard.
I mean, I could've added the beard as well, but I don't currently have a full beard.
Please, stop. The days are getting colder and soon my chin will be uncomfortable chapped.
thejeremy HAS to shave for work. He grows a gloriously, sexy, full ass beard and he isn't allowed to rock it. It is so depressing. Lucky for him, we started dating before I knew that he could rock that beard and he started growing it out after we started dating, so when his job forced him to shave it off it wasn't super disappointing. Just mostly disappointing. LOL
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